This post has been somewhat delayed by me catching a really nasty throat infection which landed me in hospital for a week and has knocked my physical fitness back some months. Also. I’m finding this part the hardest to put in place as I’m not sure I fully understand it.
There’s a theory that it is some sort of personality trait or personal situation that can trigger cancer, similarly it would appear that stress and cancer go hand in hand, also possibly depression, anxiety, grief and trauma. In terms of personality; Laura Bond author of “Mum’s Not Having Chemo” gives the following list as typical of those who get cancer:
- Always putting others first.
- Low self esteem.
- Bottling up emotions.
- Living in fear.
- Harbouring resentment
Some of those I identify with but not all, however I’ve generally lived with high stress levels and quite often put myself under stress to achieve things, also I know I have a mild tendency towards depression. Maybe some or all of things helped trigger my cancer? What can I do about it?
Well it seems that the thing to do is try and change my lifestyle and also my outlook on life, I think I need to relax more and learn to really enjoy myself more. I also think that there are a few things that I need to get finished off to gain the satisfaction of achieving something from work I’ve done. I tend to be a cynic so I’m making some effort to stop being so cynical about things.
I’ve also read that exercise is extremely good for fighting cancer; it oxygenates the blood and also improves general fitness helping your body to fight what is in it.
So here are some of the things I’ve done over the last few months or so to try and improve my physical and mental well being:
- I gave up work – I’ve been meaning to retire for some time but felt that I should continue to contribute as my wife is still working. Having cancer provided me with the push I needed to simply pack it in. However I do need something to do.
- I joined a gym – apart from a few exercises and the occasional run I’ve relied on my sailing to keep me fit. My physiotherapist had given me some exercises with weights to continue to strengthen my shoulder so I explained my various issues to the local gym. Having convinced them I wasn’t going to drop dead in their facilities I now go a couple of times a week, with a weights program and some cardio vascular (running machine) added on. I used to be extremely fit so it is a bit odd only being able to manage 20 minutes running and walking along with some light weights. The gym has a pool so I go for a swim now and then too.
- I asked the NHS what I can get out of them – I asked for some counselling but just ended up on a waiting list but I did manage to get a referral for some holistic healing. It turns out this is Reflexology which involves someone massaging my feet to heal my body, I’ve only been once and it was a bit odd but I’m trying to keep an open mind. I actually wanted some Reikki massage so once I’ve finished the Reflexology I might try that.
- I’ve decided to write up my family history – I’ve done loads of research into my surname and uncovered a quite amazing story of Cornish landed gentry and lost fortunes and also discovered that I descend from Edward 111. But I’ve never organised all this or written it up as I do a lot of research for other people.
- I tried Yoga – I quite enjoyed it but I joined a class where everybody had been going for some time, they all knew what to do, when to breath and I sort of lagged behind so I didn’t go again. I might try this again but start with a beginners class.
I think I need to look at the social side of my life as well because I pretty much packed everything in that I was involved with when I was being treated for cancer and I might also have a dabble with meditation.
So that’s the full regime in place now:
I go for a scan next week so in a week or so’s time I may get some idea of whether any of this is working.